Living With...Anxiety

Hi dolls,

I have 3 different notebooks lying around me right now, all 3 have lists, ideas, first drafts, second drafts, and scribbles all over them. All 3 are my blog post notebooks and not one has a finished post inside!
At the start of December, I relaunched and I was finally happy with my design and layout (and I still am, I really totally do love it) I had so many plans, and I couldn't wait to get writing and publishing, but every single time I sat down to write I failed to finish a single fucking paragraph!!!

NEWSFLASH!!!

In a stunning twist, it's not even that old cow Writer's Block that is stopping me. Nope, this time, it's this new bitch in town- Anxiety!

I know, I know, "Anxiety" is a word bandied about the Twittersphere like a badge of honour nowadays- but bitches be crazy if they think it's some cool new accessory. Anxiety can't be taken off and put on a shelf next to your marble vinyl paper and blog props, until the next time you want to be "just like Zoella"! I could tell you what anxiety actually is BUT it's different for everyone, and everybody has a different way of explaining it to others- here is my way...

Things My Anxiety has told Me This Year

 (in this scenario my anxiety is a skinny blonde bitch, that looks a little like my school bully)


  • Bitch do you really think you're funny? Chlamydia gets more laughs!
  • Why bother writing it? Literally nobody gives a shit! 
  • Your friends legit think you are a total bitch-say nice things to keep them around- for now!
  • Why would Damian love you? You are a mean, narky, temperamental cow!
  • Oh, and BTW you should not be wearing those jeans...can you say thunder thighs? Fat bitch!
  • Yup, that guy is definitely going to kill you. He's not really heading to work, he's got a cellar where he's going to chop you up into little pieces. 
  • Seriously EVERYBODY is looking at you- I bet it's because of that ugly scar on your nose- that guy (on the other side of the road) he sees it and he is disgusted.
  • You know you're getting old right? 
  • You're NEVER going to be a mum.
  • You'd be a shit mum anyway!
  • Although you couldn't be any worse than you are at being a wife.
  • This lift is going to break down, nobody is going to care enough to look for you, you are going to have a panic attack and die in this metal and glass coffin.
  • Just stop trying- it's pathetic.
  • Why would they promote you?
  • That person behind you IS going to kidnap you- for real.
  • Nobody is going to pay the ransom.
  • You looked shit on your wedding day.
  • You look shit today too, and tomorrow probably.
  • Your husband is repulsed by your skin and scars.
  • He legit doesn't find you attractive.
  • If you eat that you WILL choke and die.
  • That pain IS a heart attack- you are going to die right here.
  • You're going to get sacked any day now because you're shit at your job as well as everything else.
  • If you go to sleep I'm going to give you that nightmare again.
  • If you go to sleep I'm going to make you miss your alarm. miss work, and lose your job.
  • If you go to sleep you are NEVER going to wake up.
  • He sleeps better without you there anyway.
  • It's cancer/fibromyalgia//MS/other horrible illness
  • You think you've got style? You look like a hippo that shops in trash cans.
  • Why bother moving today.
  • Why bother blogging? Shut it all down.
  • Why bother doing anything?
I could go on and on but this is already longer than I planned so I'll stop here with the things anxiety has told me this month. I know most of these things seem irrational (except maybe the not being funny thing) but in the moment I believe them all, and that is why I've decided 2016 is going to be the year that I defeat this stupid blonde bitch!- Wish me luck!!

Thanks for reading, and please have a gentle new year.

Much Love
AJ
xx


OOMD- Outfit of My Dreams

Hi Babes!

I've never done a wish list post like this before, but now I've discovered Polyvore I can guarantee this won't be my last!! 

The below started out as just the trainers (must have btw) and evolved into my perfect late winter/early spring outfit...which is lucky because it's going to take me that long to save up to buy everything!!

Anyhow enough of my chatter, see below for where to get your hands on all the pretty things.



1.Adidas Originals Stan Smiths 
7. Bobble Hat for Alder Hey Hospital- sadly no longer available :-(

Right now I've put this on the internet for the world to see, I HAVE to save up and buy it all, or face the wrath of the internet Gods! Hopefully this will all pop up in OOTD posts super soon. 

Have you guy got any wish list posts you wanna share?

Much Love
AJ 
xx

The Love and OAS Blogroll


Thank you for checking out the LoveandOAS blogroll. Basically here you will find links to all the blogs I read regularly. All of these are written by people I genuinely love - all of them are piss your pants funny, adept at spinning a good yarn, whip smart, horrendously talented, and just the nicest people. So if they sound like the kind of people you like to read about then check em out :-)...


Bonus: 

Vloggers!! I don't watch Youtube all that often because headaches are chronic and laptop lights are hell BUT when I can handle it these are the babes I'm watching:
Go, watch, smile, enjoy!!



I'm Baaaaaack!!

Well Hello there!!

Whether you are a regular reader who is excited to have a look at the newly relaunched site, or a new reader who was drawn in by all my chatter about redesigning on Twitter, welcome to Love and Other Awesome Stuff!!

I'm sure some of you had noticed that I hadn't posted in some time and that is because I'd fallen out of love with what I was doing. I let myself get taken in by what I thought I had to write to get people interested in what I had to say. I took a break to remind myself why I started blogging, and to think about what I REALLY wanted to share with the world, and thank God I finally sat back down in front of my computer, and was able to write something I wasn't disappointed with.

I got my mojo back, but there was no point in bringing out new and improved content, onto the same old, tired design, so voila...Love and OAS 2.0 is born. I really do hope you like it, and remember to scroll down and check out my advertisers, and a few little sidebar additions that might make you smile :-).

This new incarnation is going to be a lot more Lifestyle focused- it will feature rants, likes, dislikes, Love Sharing, reviews, memories, juicy insights into my ever so exciting (I jest of course) life. I will still have some beauty and fashion of course because I love those things and they do feature in my day to day life. Above all this will be a place of positivity, and place that makes you laugh, smile, and nod along in agreement, or even that encourages you to form an opinion of your own and have a lively debate with me.

Love and Other Awesome Stuff is proud to be a member of The Girl Gang which is just an amazing group of wonderful bloggers who endeavour to spread love and friendship all around- I hope to uphold those values through my content, and my interactions with you guys.

Lastly, I LOVE making new friends so please come over and say hi on Twitter!!

Can't wait to share all my new content with you guys, and thanks for popping by.

Much Love
AJ
xx



Breaking The Silence // Extending the Hand of Friendship

wasn't going to write this post, sometimes I feel like maybe we put too much of ourselves out there- but then I remember that I'm a blogger and that's kind of what I do! Even so, this post is super personal and the only reason I am writing it is because I was recently reminded that people sometimes need to know that they are not alone. I am also writing it because the world needs to talk about things like miscarriage and child loss more!
These are things that are so common in our world, yet are somehow still considered taboo subjects. I'm not suggesting you make them your next dinner party conversation topic but I am begging that you don't ignore people when they bring it up. I get that it is an uncomfortable topic for some to discuss, but your two minutes of discomfort is nothing compared to the lifetime of pain felt by those who have experienced the unthinkable.



I personally know so many women who have experienced miscarriage, many more who have had to give birth to a sleeping child, and even some who have had no choice but to terminate a much wanted pregnancy because there were major risks to their own lives. All of these women have suffered loss and all of them are struggling to adapt to their new normal.

These women (and their partners too of course!) have gone through so many emotions, emotions we all experience but could never imagine experiencing all at once. There is elation (or abject fear) when they see that positive test, and then their mind goes into overdrive, imagining a life with their child, a life filled with joy, laughter and all encompassing love. A life that involves play dates, football games in the park, ballet classes, tears, smiles, hugs and tantrums. A life that you pray your child will lead, not once in these first few moments do you consider that something might go wrong. But for so many it does go wrong, for so many they never get to experience that rush of love when they see their baby's heartbeat for the first time, some never even get to see their baby on a scan because they leave too soon. Some have to make difficult decisions and deal with the guilt that stems from them, and some have to deliver a baby they know will never take a breath.

So often when the unthinkable happens people don't understand why it hurts so much, I personally was asked "how can you be this upset about something you never actually had?"- can we just take a second to think about how ridiculous that question is? Remember that whole life I mentioned, the one you start dreaming about the second you find out you are pregnant? We mourn the life we expected, we mourn the expectation of a healthy pregnancy, we fight with ourselves internally, we blame ourselves and wonder what we could have done differently. There are a million emotions that run through you when you lose a baby, and at the core of it all is a deep, unrelenting sadness and pain. It never ends either, something like this changes you as a person, everything you do for a while will be tinged with a different kind of emotion.

One day you will realise that you smiled a lot, and then suddenly you will feel guilty for smiling! You will go a whole day or even two or three without feeling hopeless, and then BOOM it will all come rushing back and hit you all over again. It never really goes away, I think about what could have been every single day...I sit in a bar with a nice glass of wine and my brain tells me you couldn't do this so often if you had your baby, and I find myself wishing I wasn't sat in that bar drinking that wine. I get a twinge of jealousy when I walk past pregnant women, and then remember that I don't know their journey, I don't know if they struggled like I struggle, and then I end up just praying that all goes well for them.

That's what miscarriage and child loss does to you, it takes away your innocence, your naivety, it changes your priorities, it changes your entire outlook and it hurts.

I was lucky enough to find a woman who made it her life's mission to make the world a better place for women like me, and through her I found an amazing support system, and the strength to try again.
She has made me want to be a better person because of what happened, as opposed to being a sadder person. Which is the point of this post really, if you need to talk, talk to me. If you need to rant, rant to me! If you have experienced loss and don't know where to turn, turn to me and I'll do my best to help. I am not an expert, I am just a woman who lost a baby, like so many others out there. If I can empathise I will, if I can't I will introduce you to the people who can. At the same time if someone you know is struggling with this and you just don't know what to say, please ask me. I know it can be hard, but the most important thing is to make sure that you don't dismiss the feelings of a person who is trying to reach out to you. Say their baby's name, remember them, and remember that if a person feels like a parent it isn't up to you to tell them they aren't!

Sorry for being depressing today, I promise normal service will resume shortly, but today I'm choosing to remember our baby. Two years ago today our world changed, and I'm lucky that I've adapted to my new normal, but others aren't so lucky...this post is for them.

In memory of baby Pip -12th August 2013. 💙

Much Love
AJ
Xx



A Celebration // Wedded Bliss // Life and Love

So, on the 8th of August me and Damian celebrated one year of marriage and it was a blast!



With that in mind, I've started this post so many times and scrapped it almost as many! How do you write a post commemorating your first year of marriage without sounding like a total cliche?

I had thought about doing a "What my first year of marriage has taught me" type thing but one of my favourite bloggers has just done that! So instead I'm going to say, finish this post and then go read her's here.

Then I thought, maybe I could do a "10 Things I Love About You" post, but how do you narrow the love you have for your husband/wife down to 10 things!?!?! <<<< smooshy alert! Of course I've already shared our love story - so that's out! Then it occurred to me that I've made it a mission of mine to make this place on the internet a funny, entertaining, and interesting place to visit...so why stop now!! So welcome to "Thought's I've had while falling in Love with my Husband" told to you completely in GIF form :-p.

For the moment he made me realise that I was worth so much more...

I didn't know that I wanted to be a hat...but by God I make an awesome hat! (If you don't get this reference, you are way too young for most of the shit that goes down on this blog)!!

For that time where I played Impossible to get...
Until he reminded me that I can still do all these things AND be married to an amazing man!

For all the times he asked and I said no...
Oh go on then!

For the moment I realised he was the one...

For the day we became man and wife...
Yeah that's right, we even found time to have fun during our ceremony. 

For that moment we realised we'd have to spend two weeks of our first month married, apart...
So much sadness :-(. 

But then I came home and we had a PARTY!!...
With way more clothes, I promise! 

When you realise that it's not always sunshine and rainbows...
But at the end of the day you always have love and each other to get you through.

And after one whole year,..
Still madly in love! 

So there you have it guys! Hope it wasn't too soppy, hope it was at least a little bit funny. And I hope I figure out how to top this next year!! 

Tell people you love them, remember to love yourself (and no I don't mean like that ;-) but yeah you should totally do that) and I'm just gonna dance away in my mysterious fog of love, and look for more fun GIFS.

Much Love
AJ
xx





Save My Face // Skincare // Dermatique*

Hi guys!

I'm going to let you in on a little secret...all through high school I was called Frosty. Not for my ice queen-like disposition, or the fact that I refused to drop my knickers for all the "popular" boys (although I'd like to clarify that those things were both also true) but no, the awfully imaginative bullies (who shall henceforth be known as twatty-bastards) had decided that because I had dry skin I deserved to be teased mercilessly. Apparently flaky skin makes you a snowman...who knew?? Anyway, as strong as I am the twatty-bastards did get to me, so I made it my mission to "cure" my dry skin. It took me until I was 18 to realise that there wasn't really a miracle cure for something that is so prevalent and that you have no control over!! Of course, there were creams out there that managed to give me some moisture but I never actually found one that lasted all day, or for that matter for as long as it took me to add my makeup on top.

frosty the snowman, snowman, frosty, drawing
Photo Credit: ME! Thought I'd draw the little guy for y'all. 
THEN I discovered blogging, and alongside that a whole community of people who have the answers. I took to Twitter and asked the all-important question: What cream is best for extra dry and eczema prone skin? The resounding answer was La Roche Posay Toleriane Fluide-and do you know what I thought it was perfect...until I tried wearing it under my makeup. But hey, I was one step closer. La Roche Posay works on those days when I don't want to wear makeup, and I would highly recommend it. I settled into my almost perfect skincare routine and was quite content until one day everything changed...the day I was contacted by Dermatique.

Dermatique are a Scottish skincare company, and by that I mean SCOTTISH SKINCARE GENIUSES!! They very kindly sent me a tub of their Recuperating Cream to try out and I can't stop using it and recommending it.

Dermatique, cream, recuperating cream, local produce

Dermatique, recuperating cream, cream, local produce

cream, recuperating cream, dermatique, scottish brands

The cream is a lovely thick body butter type consistency, which reminds me of good old Astral, and much like a proper good thick cream it really doesn't take much to cover my whole face. It is a lot heavier than I am used to, but whilst this bothered me the first couple of days I soon got used to it and I stopped even noticing the difference. 

Oh and can I just mention the smell.. some other reviews I've seen have said the smell is horrible but these people are crazy! I couldn't quite figure out what I was smelling at first but one day, when I got the sudden urge to lick my own face, I realised that it's OATMEAL!! My face smells like breakfast, and I love it!!! I'm guessing this unheard of smell (for a cream) comes from the fact that this cream is completely natural- NO PARABENS, NO ADDITIVES, NOTHING!

I put A LOT of faith in Dermatique because their products are specifically formulated for people with eczema, dry skin, psoriasis etc, and boy did they deliver! Are you ready to see the results? First up I give you my pre-Dermatique face (fully made-up)...
You see all the dry, flaky bits across my brow line, and tip of my nose?

Wait for it...
GONE!! Completely fucking GONE! My skin is so clear, and practically glowing. 
I give complete credit for my skin transformation to Dermatique and their Recuperating Cream. I know that £29.50 may seem a bit steep for a tub of cream, but seriously look at the difference! This isn't just a moisturiser, this is a miracle CURE for a "Frosty", "Flaky" "Weather-beaten", "Bully Fodder" complexion!

If you suffer from any skin complaint like eczema, psoriasis etc, then please do yourself a favour and head over to Dermatique and grab yourself a pot! And if you still aren't quite sure then you can now pick up a sampler size for just £4.99...don't just take my word for it, try it for yourself. 

Let me know what you think, or what your miracle products are in the comments. I'll just be sitting here licking my face, and taking wonder in the softness.

Much Love 
AJ 
xx

p.s. This product was gifted to me, but all opinions are my own, and 110% honest. 


OOTD // BIG FLOOPY FUN // ENGAGEMENT PARTY

Heeeeeelo!!

It's not often I get to dress up and have fun nowadays so I was super excited to raid my closet and come up with the perfect outfit for my brother (from another mother's) engagement party. Before we get to the nitty gritty I would just like to say a huge "congratulations" to Dave and Fiona, and wish them all the best for their upcoming nuptials and the future. But hey y'all just really wanna see what I wore don't ya?!?

OOTD

Excuse the unmade bed, I was too busy trying on half my closet!!

It even sits right when I'm sitting down! Just wish my necklace wasn't back to front :-(

I freaking love this bag! Ted Baker is my go-to guy for night out clutches. 
What I wore:
Ruched polo neck, cropped sleeveless top- Primark (old as the hills so no idea how much it cost)
Bonded Full Midi Skirt- Topshop (£20 in store sale, get it before it's gone!!!)
Black croc effect courts (not pictured) - New Look (24.99 I think)
White PVC Quilted Ted Baker Clutch- Cruise (£51) 

I managed to keep my face out of all these photos which is rather surprising!! Lucky for you I took a "getting ready" mirror selfie (because my front facing camera is buggered) and here's a massive close up of my face just for all you special people :-p...

FOTD

Oh My God...what colour do my eyes look to you?? Answers in the comments if you please!
Are you guys ready for this, because it takes a lot to make me look human...

What I wore on my face:
Recuperating Cream- Dermatique (£24.50 ON SALE!! Usually £29.50 for 100ml)
That Gal Brightening Primer- Benefit (£22.50 for 11ml)
Complexion Rescue in Opal- Bare Minerals (£26 for 35ml)
High Beam Highlighter- Benefit (£19.50 for 13ml)
Bronze Glow Shimmering Powder- Collection 2000 (£2.19)
Brow Satin in Medium Brow- Maybelline (£5.99)
Focus & Fix Brow Kit in Medium/Dark- Makeup Revolution (£2.50)
Iconic Pro 2 in Silk & One Way- Makeup Revolution (£6.99)
Soft Kohl Kajal Pencil Eyeliner in Jet Black- Rimmel (£2.99)
Diorshow Black Out Mascara- Christian Dior (£25.00) 
Pro Longwear Lip Pencil in Nice'n'Spicy- Mac (£15.00)
Marvelous Moxie Lipgloss in Hypnotist-Bare Minerals (£16.00) 

WOW!! Does it seriously look like I have that much on my face? I bloody hope not, do you people see what blogging has done to me. I didn't even know there was such a thing as a fucking brow kit until I joined the blogging community!

Anyway, hope you enjoyed a peek at my outfit and face for the night. I'd love to know what your go-to products are, and if  your "natural" face takes as much as mine lol.

Much Love 
AJ
xx







Living With... // Part One

Hi guys, welcome to the first part of the new Living With...section of Love and OAS!!

From here on out you can expect a mixture of the serious and the sassy, the funny and the fabulous. Basically, you might find one post makes you think a little differently that day, whilst the next one just makes you piss yourself laughing (a girl can dream that others find her funny right?). Either way I hope you find every post in this section informative and/or entertaining.

Right, now that the boring intro part is over are you ready for my take on Living With... A BOY!!


  • Boys smell different! Sometimes this is a good thing- I get it sometimes that natural musk is a beautiful unnaturally good smell, most of the time though *eesh*! Are their diets to blame? I know us ladies all smell of roses and sunshine. But boys? Boys smell of dirt, and sulphur, and death. It is horrendous, and they take pride in it! Don't ever give a boy a dirty look for farting, it only makes them prouder. Disgusting creatures!
  • Boys snore, LOUDLY! *Admission time* I snore too I'll be honest about that, but "some" boys snore so loudly that they sound like a walrus- if that walrus was being whipped while eating a train, as it thundered through your bedroom. 
  • Boys are creatures of habit. He will have a seat (usually claimed on moving day) and this seat will become his home. Things will begin to erupt around this seat, all things will be within hands reach, never further. Mess will pile up around this seat and continue to accumulate until you finally give in and clear it up. NEVER sit on his seat, he will know!
  • Boys are blind to mess (see above point)- they are NOT however deaf, so nag the fuck out of them! Nagging has been scientifically proven to be the only cure to mess-blindness.
  • Socks multiply around boys- one thinks they must secrete a strange pheromone that only socks can smell- unfortunately this secret pheromone does not yet have the ability to lure said socks into the actual bloody sock drawer. Thus you will find socks absolutely everywhere, I'm serious I found two down the side of my toilet last week!!!
  • Boys have drawers full of DVD's and computer games. Boys also have Netflix and haven't touched those DVD's in MONTHS! Boys also don't realise that this drawer space is the perfect place for the expanding candle collection we cultivate to eradicate the bloody smell!!
  • Boys think lifting their feet up while you clean around them is acceptable! Boys, if you are reading this the CORRECT response is "can I help?"
  • Boys do not understand how important homeware, and interior design can be. They think "whichever you like, babe, I don't care" is a legit response! They think chuckling at your uhmming and aahing over two kinds of similar BUT not actually at all similar cushions, is CUTE! They are fucking annoying...




  • Boys will cuddle with you if you are having one of those "I don't know what's wrong, just ignore me crying at an Andrex advert" moments.
  • They have this weird shower gel stuff that tingles, seriously steal it once and then buy your own thereafter! It's so much fun.
  • They have these amazing aftershaves and colognes that smell strong, and manly, and sexy all at once. This point is the main reason I almost exclusively smell of AQVA by Bulgari.
  • Boys like to show off so at least you will always be amused. 
  • Boys won't steal your GHDs and break them by wrapping the cord the wrong way. They won't finish your favourite pan in your Naked Pallette, they won't use up your £29.50 a tub night cream (okay they might test all these things while home alone but they won't finish them)! 
  • Boys will actually just let you decorate the whole place yourself, so go crazy with those unicorn hangings, and stuffed toys, THEY REALLY DON'T CARE! (It's a swings and roundabouts kind of thing).

Of course all of these can be true or false, for girls or boys. That's the joy of being human and being unique. So please do take this post with a pinch of salt and just laugh at the fact that throughout my life I have had the "pleasure" of dealing with all of the above, whilst living with a boy! 

Much Love

AJ 

xx
























17 Things That Really Piss Me Off

I'd like to first say that, contrary to popular belief, I am a NICE person! I may have resting bitch face, I may have a sharp tongue, and I may cut you out of my life if you break the cardinal rules of friendship, but all in all I'm actually lovely!
I am loyal, caring, helpful, kind and funny as fuck- ask my friends they'll agree (I hope). So please bear all this in mind whilst I get a little negative up in here.

Disclaimer: While everything I am about to write is true, they have been written with my tongue firmly planted in my cheek!


So here we go: THINGS THAT REALLY GET MY GOAT!!

1) Drivers that don't fucking indicate! I mean seriously how hard is it to flick that little switch to let other people know whether you are going straight ahead, or turning a corner! It's common courtesy, not to mention a pretty big part of safe driving practice! But by all means carry on breaking the law, and maybe one day your negligence will lead you to needing a lawyer...that's called karma!

2) People that stop dead in front of you when you are walking. Like PLEASE have some consideration for the other people around you. The Zombie apocalypse has not yet happened, you are not alone in this world.

3) People that walk side by side on narrow pavements. Rude, selfish and just plain annoying! I get it you want to walk alongside your friend/partner/whatever BUT do you know what I want? I want to not have to walk on the freaking ROAD! For the love of all that is holy just walk single file if the pavement is narrow!!

4) Anybody that ignores basic instructions that are there for their comfort and safety!! If it says don't leave luggage in the vestibule area and you hear "please stick your five large suitcases in the vestibule right in front of the exit/entrance instead of putting them in the rack built for that very purpose" then you sir/madam are a cunt!

5) People that ask you in the most patronising voice ever "so do you like your job?"- make no mistake that what these people (just the patronising ones) mean is "how could you possibly be happy in your job, it's so not what I would consider a real job. Are you some kind of uneducated simpleton?"

6) People that legitimately use the term "real job"! Sod off'

7) The "Real women have Real Bodies" thing! I don't know what to call it, is it a movement, and ethos, or the biggest crock of shit you've ever heard? I'm inclined to think it's the last one! Let me break it down for you...are you female? Do you have organs? Do you have a head? Is everything held together by a skeleton and muscle and skin?? If so, YOU ARE A REAL WOMAN! Are you slightly plump? A bit on the thin side? Fat, short, tall, athletic...blah, blah, blah? Yup, still a REAL WOMAN. So fuck you, everyone who has ever said "real women  have real bodies" or any variation.

8) So called feminists that give the rest of us a bad name! Or the ones who look down on you if your actions and decisions are different to their own. Feminism to me means equality for BOTH sexes. It means that I should be able to make my own decisions, about my own life without any man, woman or militant group dictating how I or any other PERSON on this planet lives. If I want to wear a nice dress, a sky-skimming pair of heels, a a bright red lippy- I will! Because I am not doing it for men, I'm not doing it because the magazines (run by mysoginistic bastard men) told me to, I do it because it makes me feel fierce as fuck! And if a woman can't be fierce as fuck in 2015 then I fear there is no hope for the future.

9) Beyoncé- don't get it, nope, NEXT!

10) People that stop talking in the middle of a sentence! If you haven't decided what it is you actually want to say keep your mouth shut for a few more seconds. Obviously if you have a stammer or whatever you are exempt from this Goat-getting rant!

11) White Chocolate! It's just fat folks, there is literally next to no (if not just completely, no) cocoa in there. It should be against trading standards law for it to even be called chocolate.

12) People that think they can just rock up and stroke my hair! Like FUCK OFF! I don't walk up to you and start stroking you if I admire your skirt. I wouldn't runs my fingers across your lips if I noticed you were rocking Giambatista for MAC ( I mean I'd probably high five the shit out of you for being awesome, but I wouldn't touch your face) and I definitely wouldn't put my hands on your hair! Do you know how many dirt particles your hands pick up during the day? Do you know how when you constantly touch your own hair it can make it greasy? You do know all these things? Right, then why on earth do you think I'd be happy that you are running your little grease mitts through my fucking hair? I love it that my hair intrigues you, I get it that you just can't believe it's naturally this long and this thick...but in the future, tell me, don't touch me!

13) Ignorant people, bigots, hate preachers, liars! All complete arseholes!

14) Those twats who follow you on Twitter, wait for you to follow back and then immediately unfollow! Stop being a twat. If this is how you built up your followers count then it's pretty false and pretty sad. Also, those automated DM's people send when you follow them? Fuck off with that bullshit.

15) Emails addressed to LoveandOAS! If you read my blog and want to get in touch please take a second to learn my name...it's literally all over this blog! In the same vein if I tell you my name is Amanda-Jaied, call me Amanda-Jaied not Amanda. It's like me calling you Step if your name is Stephanie.

16) People with no luggage who queue up for the wide access gates in train stations, when there are loads of available normal gates. What even is this? Are they really that lazy they can't walk the two feet to the left!

17) People who refuse to dress up for fancy dress parties! You are not cool, you are not being ironic you are just a boring twat!!

Hope you enjoyed my little list, and I'm sure you even agree with some of these. Why not sound off on some of the things that annoy you in the comments.

Much Love
AJ
xx

Disclaimer: this post contains some sponsored content but as always is all completely my own brand of tongue and cheek honesty. 

Sisterhood of the World Award // Tag



Big shout out to the beautiful Sofie from It's Just Sofie, for nominating me for The Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award! I do love a good question and answer session so this one put a huge smile on my face, huge thank you for that. 

Rules of the award
Answer the 10 questions set for you, and remember to thank the lovely blogger who nominated you
Set 10 questions of your own
Nominate up to 10 of your favourite bloggers

Sofie's Questions

What do you love most about blogging?
As you may have noticed I've been a bit AWOL from blogging at the moment and that is simply because I'd lost my way. I'd forgotten why I started, I'd forgotten what I loved about it, and I had started to do what I thought was expected of me instead of what I wanted to do. But this wee break has helped me remember that I love blogging because I love to write, it is that simple. I love to rant, I love to let people know what I think about the things I fill my life with, and I love to just sit down at my computer (or with my notebook) and watch the words flow out of me. 

What's your favourite experience ever?
Without a doubt being married! It started with the most relaxed and totally "us" wedding ceremony ever (which by the way included sand in my toes, Disney music and the awkward moment my dear husband couldn't get the ring on my finger) and it has developed every day since. When you get married people always ask "Does it feel any different?" and in a major way it really doesn't, BUT in those small, almost imperceptible ways, those tiny moments and realisations it feels amazing. No fleeting experience can ever compare to the experience of being married to your favourite person (that isn't my father :-p) in the world. 

If you were a Disney Princess who would you be?
Argh! Aurora or Rapunzel, Rapunzel or Aurora?? I just don't know. Although Rapunzel has a chameleon and a horse, so yeah probably Rapunzel.

What country do you really want to travel to?
Can I say, all of them? Ha, I guess if I really had to pick just one it would be the United States because each State is different and there are so many things I want to visit, and photograph, and do. So yeah if i'm being smart about it it's the US but if I was to say it off the top of my head it would be the Maldives. 

Online shopping or real shopping?
Real shopping every damn time. Strangely though I don't like the actual act of shopping, but I do like buying new things lol. 

What is your dream job?
I've had many dream jobs throughout my life but one constant has always been that I want to write. It is my biggest passion and If I could make a living off it I would be in heaven. Sadly though it's not that easy to just become a bestseller so right now I'm dreaming of becoming a teacher. 

If your life were a book or a movie what would the title be? 
I always joke that my life story would be called "WTF Just Happened??" I was going to try and come up with something more intelligent but screw it, live is a series of crazy events and questionable choices so yeah we're sticking with "WTF Just Happened??"

Best sing-a-long song?
Oh my God!! I am a singer this is difficult! I sing along to bloody everything, not always in tune I'll admit but most of the time I like to think I'm nailing it. My go to drunken party rousing tune is Build Me Up Buttercup so let's go with that shall we.

Best Chick-Flick?
Dirty Dancing! Has anybody ever answered this question differently? If they have sit them down and make them watch it over and over until they realise the error of their ways. 

Describe yourself in one word!
Loving <3

Well, that was fun! Now I have to think of 10 questions (I'm avoiding the nominating part for as long as possible)...

Do you identify as a feminist-What does feminism mean to you?

What would a scented candle named after you smell like?

What is the theme tune of your life?

If you could only read one more book for the rest of your life what would it be?

If you were on Death Row what would you want for your last meal?

Who is your hero?

You have a whole day to yourself- what are you doing?

Keanu Reeves or Johnny Depp?

What is the number 1 thing you want to do before you die?

What do you think is the most interesting fact about you? 

Right then, my nominees are:

Chantel from Bonnie Blondie
Chelsea from Chelsea Potter
Kirsty from Kirsty Ralph
Estelle from Let Me Go XO
Sammy from Little Fickle
Hayley from It's Just Me Hayley D

Have fun ladies and remember and tag me on Twitter with your links once you've done your post. 

Much Love 
AJ 
XX








OOTD // The Phone Edition // Iconemesis Phone Case*

It occurred to me recently that as fashion and beauty bloggers we put so much stock in what we put on our faces, and how we dress our bodies. We agonise over the right face cream, we argue with ourselves to justify that new "perfect" pair of shoes, and for some of us we might even let our aesthetic obsession slip over into our homes. I for one focus on the smaller aspects of style, a little addition to my art collection, the cute and quirky bag that'll make a plain all black outfit stand out, and what exactly my accessories and bits and bobs say about me (or in some cases what they say to other people).
More often than not you will see that I'm sending a message with what I choose to put on display, and one of my favourite ways to do this is with my phone! 
"What? Did she just say her phone? What is she talking about?" 
I know some of you are thinking I've lost my mind but hear me out. What is the one thing our generation is never without? Our phones have become an extension of us, we use them for absolutely everything, gone are the days where all we could do was text, call and maybe play snake! While I do miss snake and the durability of the mobile phones of old (Nokia 3310- you will always have a place in my heart) I wouldn't go back to that time for anything. 
My phone makes it feel like my best friend doesn't live on the other side of the country, my phone helps me stay up to date with what is happening in the world, and yes it does still give me the ability to send a text or make a phone call should the need arise. With all this in mind is it not only fair that I put as much thought into dressing my faithful piece of tech as I do myself? Ok, some of you make think that is crazy but to me it seems completely normal so...let's have a look at my phone's outfit of the day (time being).


Isn't she a beauty?! Now I am a huge fan of pop-art and so upon seeing this sassy little babe I just had to have it. The lovely Sammy at Iconemesis asked me to choose my favourite from their range and I was so excited that I hopped right on over to have a look at what they had on offer, and boy was I spoiled for choice!

In all honesty I was torn between getting this one and one of the many gorgeous cases on offer, which by the way, includes Fifi Lapin!!! But my love of a sassy broad and an even sassier message won the internal battle. "Frankly my Dear..." is a phrase that flits through my head on numerous occasions daily (I work in hospitality) and this way I can say it without ever having to say it :-).

Oh and I haven't even told you the best bit yet...if you want your own Boyarde case, or Fifi, or any of the other adorable, quirky cases they have on offer they are only £10-£15 on the website!! Considering the quality, finish and amazeness of this case I think the prices are incredible, it is taking every ounce of my being not to buy the whole collection (I have a holiday to save for)!

If you are looking for something to jazz up your favourite piece of tech then seriously I would definitely head over and have a look at Iconemesis's range. And look how cute they look together...

Much Love
AJ
xx

*This product was a gift from the company BUT all views and opinions are my own, and the content of this piece is not influenced by the brand in any way. 




The Met Gala 2015 // Fashion's BIG Night // WOW or WTF?

Hi guys,

I realised it had been a while since I'd done a fashion post, which is a shame because I really enjoy them. With that in mind I think the Met Gala would be a great subject to dip my toe back into the fashion world with. Now everybody has their own opinions on the looks from last night's Met Gala, and these are just my own. If you disagree that is good, if you agree that is great, and if you just don;t care why on earth did you click on a post named "The Met Gala 2015..."??? 

Right with that out of the way here's my best and worst from the 2015 fete of fashion. Oh first I should probably mention that the theme of the night was "China: Through the looking Glass"...

Best "Naked" Dress

photo credit :www.cambio.com

Kim Kardashian West in Peter Dundas for Roberto Cavalli is just beautiful! Naked dresses were popular once again this year, with Jennifer Lopez, Beyonce and many more all taking on the tricky trend. But for me Kim K-W was the best on the night, there is a fine line between sexy and tacky (more on that later) and I think this is pure perfection. Like how is it actually possible to look angelic with that much skin on show??? Top marks! 

Surprise Crush 

photo credit: Vogue.com

Dakota Johnson in Chanel Haute Couture...WOW! I'll be the first to admit I just never saw the appeal of Dakota, I thought she was a bit bland and you know not all that attractive. Well colour me speechless because fucking WOW! She looks freaking outstanding here, the hair, the perfect winged eyeliner and freaking Chanel. JUST OUTSTANDING! Bravo. Of course at first view I thought she was phoning it on the theme a little bit, and then I realised her dress was literally made of little pieces of mirror. She is literally wearing the looking glass! Love! 

Best Male

Photo credit: getty images (obviously) 

Adrien Brody in Dolce & Gabbana Alla Sartoria- now don;t get me wrong I was disappointed when I found out this was D&G but I couldn't not include it because this blazer is gorgeous. More often than not men fall into the trap of just wearing a black or navy suit to these events (because nobody really cares who or what they are wearing) but every so often someone steps up and says "fuck it, I'm going big or I'm going home" and this happens. Very smart, fits the theme perfectly, and stood out in a sea of boring suits. Well Done! 

Best Theme Dress

Photo credit: mujerhoy.com

Emily Ratajkowski in Custom Topshop- This is so pretty! I'm not Emily's biggest fan, mainly due to the fact that she starred in that music video I refuse to talk about in case I rant for days & she annoyed me in Gone Girl, but I will admit the girl is HOT! Like dirty hot! But here she looks so pretty it's melted my black heart a little. The China theme is subtle and the dress is modest and "affordable" but it stands out amongst all the other eccentric spins on the theme. Got my vote!

Best "what theme?" Dress

Photo credit; usatoday.com

Alison Brie in Prabal Gurung- Every year without fail a heap of people completely ignore the theme and just wear whatever the hell they want to. Sometimes this is bland as all hell, ad the other times it looks like this! She is so freaking beautiful in this gown, I actually didn't recognise her at first (and now I realise that sounds mean :-/) but seriously she looks so different and so elegant so major fashion points to Alison.

The "Hot" Mess


Photo credit: usmagazine.com

Sarah Jessica Parker in H&M and Philip Treacy- I mean WTF is this?? Yes it fits the theme, yes in individual parts it MIGHT work, but together this is just a mess. SJP is a fashion queen and she constantly pushes boundaries but I just can't get on board with this look. Already a ton of memes have popped up ripping the piss out of this Philip Treacy headpiece and you can see why. Just NO, NO, NO!

Best Couple

Photo credit: zap2it.com

Joshua Jackson in Alexander Mcqueen and Diane Kruger in Chanel- These two are such a beautiful couple and they always look on point! I love how soft her outfit looks despite the fact that she is wearing a tunic and trousers, and the navy of his suit perfectly complements the blush pink colour of hers. This is how you do His & Hers dressing, just FYI!

Punk was the 2013 Theme kids

Photo credit: style.com

Xiao Wen Ju in Marc Jacobs- right, I love this look, I love Marc Jacobs, and I love how beautiful this woman is, BUT seriously you're two years too late love. This dress would have been FANTASTIC for the 2013 Met Gala, but for this year, I just don't get it. Saying that...can I please have this dress without the net part because I totally need it in my closet. 

Best Shock of the Night

Photo credit: usmagazine.com

Madonna in Moschino- now I know this dress isn't shocking, BUT the fact that Madonna is wearing this dress really is. I don't know about you, but I've become so accustomed to rolling my eyes at Madonna's shock factor outfits that it all got a bit boring. And then she rocks up in something so "dare I say it" normal that I'm blown away. She looks amazing, she's not trying too hard and it works. Also, it's lovely to see that her accident at the Brit Awards hasn't put her off fabulous capes. 

Still not Sure

Photo credit: look.co.uk

Kendall Jenner in Calvin Klein Collection- Seriously who thought she was going to be wearing anything but Calvin Klein?? At first I thought "Oh this is beautiful". Then I thought "like a pretty mermaid with major side-boob" and then the more I looked at it the more I started to notice the whole "mermaid caught in a fisherman's net" thing it has going on! It's so hard because this girl is just stunningly beautiful so she doesn't look bad in the dress, but I'm just not sure about the dress itself. Ask me again in a week. 

Overhyped

Photo credit: hollywoodlife.com

Beyonce in Givenchy- I'm gonna get controversial here, because the internet seems to be having a wet one over this "look" BUT all I see is a barbie doll that's been dipped in glue and rolled around in those little candy balls you get on top of chocolate disco discs. I refer you to my previous comment on naked dresses treading the line between tacky and sexy, and THIS is just tacky. If she had a few more candy balls, covering a few more pieces of her (albeit BEAUTIFUL body) this might have worked for me, but as it stands NOPE don't like it. Also, the ponytail looks like an antenna. Sorry not sorry. 


So there, you have it, my opinions on the Met Gala outfits. Any counter opinions? Do you agree with me? Who were your best and worst of China: Through the Looking Glass?

Much Love
AJ 
xx


P.s. in case you don't know what chocolate disco discs are...

Learning to Relax // Art Therapy

Hi guys, 

So apparently I suffer from stress! This will probably come as no surprise to those who know me best, I've always been a tightly wound little bundle of pent up emotion, and I am notoriously bad at relaxing. It's not even funny tbh, I can do nothing all day, and get stressed out about the fact I've done nothing all day. I've been for massages to release some of my tension only to be wound up agan 5 minutes after leaving the spa-my last masseuse actually gave me an free half hour on top of my last massage because she was determined to work out the particularly stubborn knots in my shoulders, yes it took 90 minutes to work out the stress I carry in my shoulders! I try and sit with a good book but I get stressed out about the little things that need done around the flat, I try and de-stress by reading my favourite blogs but get annoyed at my perpetually slow-running computer, I have mad half hours where I gut a room in the flat and clean from top to bottom only for my back to have a fucking fit and decide it wants to kill me and render me useless for the rest of the day! You get my point right? I'm a big wound up ball of stress that doesn't know how to relax- GO ME! I always just thought "well screw it I'm a stressy person, it's only affecting me so I guess I'll just live with it" but recently my doctor told me that my stress levels might be why we aren't pregnant yet, and I knew then that something had to be done. So I searched out new ways to relax, and boy did I find the best remedy. 

Art Therapy is a magazine, full of colouring in pages for adults. There are notes on how to relax your mind, how to use colours for their calming properties, and so much more AND it's only £2.99 an issue! I figured why not give it a try, and my God am I glad I did. I love it, you never really realise how relaxing colouring in is- probably because it's a hobby that stops after a certain age- but it truly is. Granted my need for perfection and symmetry cause me to get a bit to wound up about it every now and again, but it's progress at least. 

Basically I wanted to sing the praises of colouring in and show off some of my pages that I've done recently, and I hope you like them. 

  






What do you think? Do you suffer from stress too? Have you tried art therapy, or do you have suggestions to help this wound up ball of craziness relax? I'd love to hear from you, so leave me a comment- or you know tweet me or even message me on my Facebook page! 

Much Love
AJ 
xx

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